Why No Checklist Applies To Finding The Right Boyfriend


Please understand, life doesn’t have to have a checklist as much as you think it needs to.
So why do people feel the need to apply one when it comes to finding, keeping, and sustaining love? There are too many things to worry about when it comes to life. Love should not be one of them.

I have been in a relationship with a man for over four years now. We do not have the perfect relationship. In fact, in some cases we probably don’t even have one that is desirable for anyone else. But the fact is, he’s great and I love him.

Let me be clear, we are not perfect for each other. As much as I like to think that we are, we butt heads way too often for (in my eyes) to ever be perfect for each other. But you know whats crazy? I love the hell out of that man, and he loves the crap out of me.

I’ve read so many superficial lists out there along the lines of “He’s perfect if he does this…” or “Marry him for this…” and I call bullshit. Every time I used to read those, I used to feel insecurity because my boyfriend wouldn’t do half the things on those lists. I guarantee if you had to put the test to all my friends’ boyfriends too, half of them wouldn’t pass. Nonetheless, they are all great people, and my friends are really happy in their relationships.

I am really happy in my relationship. No, my boyfriend doesn’t bring me flowers every time I have a bad day. No, he doesn’t always plan elaborate dates for us to go on. No, he doesn’t buy me lavish gifts for no reason. No, he doesn’t brag about how perfect I am to all his friends. But, who is to say that I’m the type of girl who wants all of that?

Don’t get me wrong, all of those things are great and if your boyfriend does those things, then I’m sure he’s a great guy.

I can go on about the little things my guy does that make me happy. But to be honest, they probably wouldn’t apply to your relationship. All in all, I am happy. And that is what is the only thing your checklist should be made of.

Happiness = check!

Oh, and btw, if you’re the girl wishing you had “so and so’s” boyfriend because he buys/does all these elaborate things, (like I used to be) trust me, things sometimes always look better than they appear.

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