What Everyone Should Tell Themselves When He Or She Doesn’t Text Back


Letting go gracefully of the people that aren’t meant for you is an art that isn’t innate, it is learned through introspection, self-love and, at times, heart break. In real life some relationships and built on one and a half or even just one, a relationship is supposed to be built on two: two people actively taking an approach to being together and staying together.

However, because life isn’t perfect, we may find ourselves in a relationship where we are giving more than the other person is. This is one of those times where you should probably consider letting go. Of course, no one understands better than me the necessity for that last try, that last thing you did or want to do to try to make things work. Do you believe, in your heart, that this will make you feel at peace even if he/she doesn’t text back? If the answer is yes, do it.

You come first, let go of embarrassment and pride, if you believe this will help your process, screw rules. You do what you have to do in order to help yourself.

That is why, at times, because life isn’t perfect, that this person may not text back, and that’s ok. You will survive this, and that is why I have invented a cheat sheet to getting over that last un-responded text. It can actually be used in any kind of romantic turmoil you are going through.

I have provided blank spaces for you to fill them with things that only you know, that way it’s so much more personal and thus, effective. Find a mirror, look at yourself honestly and peacefully, and read this out loud as many times as you need. Cry, yell, whisper, do whatever you have to do: I said what I had to say and I am at peace with myself and the situation because it isn’t on me anymore.

If _________ answers, great, but if he/she doesn’t, reality is that it’s his/her loss. _________ missed out on probably one of the best opportunities of a potential relationship that he/she will ever have in his life because I am _________, _________,


Not to mention_________, and __________. I have a huge heart with so much love to give and if ________ would have ever been in trouble or needed help, I would have been there one thousand percent because I always put the people that I love first. I love myself, so really, ________ missed out. I am content that I dodged someone that would have never completely appreciated or realized the amazing person that I am, and someday I will meet someone that does, and when I do it will be awesome and then I will understand why this didn’t work out. This is a gift.

Until then all I can do is work on being the person that I want someone to fall in love with.

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