Lately I’ve had to deal with a lot of changes in my personal life. At first, discussing them to my friends, I kept calling them endings, but afterwards I began to feel as if it was a process of renewal. There is a Chinese saying as changes instead of endings. I have a new thought process of moving forward.
I know I am not the only one going through tough times; I have many friends and family members who are going through changes of their own. This post is really for them, I want to share with them some tools I’ve found to become useful through the difficult times. I’m the type of person who over thinks everything so I’m still learning how to pull myself together.
Spend only 20% of your time on what’s wrong, and 80% on what’s right.
It’s easy to complain. If you spend 80% on what are right and only 20% on what’s wrong, what do you think is going to happen? You need to make it so it’s even easier to answer the question ‘So what are you going to do about it?’
No matter what else is happening, you are at least doing one thing right in your life.
No matter how badly you think your life may be going, or how messed up you think you are, there is at least one thing you’re doing right in your life. You’re reading this now isn’t you? All it takes is one step.
If what you are doing isn’t working, do something, anything different from what you’ve done!
If you find yourself stuck in a rut, think about what you’re doing. Have you been doing the same things over and over? Challenge yourself to do something different. That little shift already creates a different result, and little shifts build on to create bigger shifts in time.
Today is a new day.
I’ve learned this from previous experience; the past does not create the future. The future CAN be better! Unless you make it worse. You need to realize that the past is unchangeable. Focus on the present, or else you’ll miss out on the chance to make it better. Leave the past where it belongs. Create hope for the future!
Seeing what you want in the future.
What do you want? The future is a blank canvas! If you can see it, hear it, feel it, you can do it!
Problems are always there!
Let’s face it, there will always be problems. Some big and some small. You may think that you’re always sad, or down only because you haven’t noticed when you haven’t been. It’s physically impossible to be depressed all the time.
It is not necessary to understand the cause of the problem to solve it.
Most people (me included) believe that it’s essential to know the roots of the problem before they can change. ‘If only I knew why I’m so… I’d be able to change myself’. Unfortunately this isn’t true. As I mentioned before I am a thinker – this gets me in more trouble that I’d like to believe. Understanding does not always create change! There will always be new elements in the existing situation. Nothing is textbook.
You have enough power to direct your inner state. Your mind makes the difference.